Thinking & Understanding in Dangerous times

Emmy van Deurzen’s reflection on Baruch Spinoza's freethinking philosophy of the 17th century resonates deeply with the contemporary discourse on understanding and empathy. 

Spinoza, known for expressing unconventional truths, offers a compelling model for navigating intellectual and interpersonal landscapes. In a world often divided, Spinoza's commitment to genuine inquiry and fearless expression stands as a beacon of intellectual courage. His rationalism and willingness to engage with diverse perspectives exemplify a spirit of open-mindedness needed today.

Van Deurzen emphasises the importance of empathic inquiry into the lived experiences of others. While education through reading and studying is essential, it must be complemented by empathic listening and direct engagement with diverse viewpoints. Understanding others goes beyond intellectual comprehension; it requires a deep appreciation of their unique circumstances, emotions, and perspectives.

One of the best managers I have had took me aside about the poor quality of my written work. He’d observed the hours I put in and the effort I made by taking the time to talk to me and find out what was going on for me. By doing this he managed to uncover something that had been a weight around my neck in terms of my academic progress all my life, my dyslexia. 

This exemplifies the transformative power of empathic inquiry in personal and professional settings. His authentic engagement in my experiences highlights the profound impact of empathic understanding in fostering meaningful relationships and facilitating personal growth.

In essence, Spinoza's legacy and Van Deurzen’s reflections remind us of the transformative potential inherent in embracing freethinking, empathic inquiry, and genuine understanding. 

In a world marked by division and discord, may we draw inspiration from Spinoza's example and endeavour to cultivate empathy, compassion, and respect in our interactions with others.

My Jasper…

Let me be transparent about why you might notice an abundance of dog pictures on my website. Firstly, my wife prefers not to have her pictures posted online, so that's one reason. But beyond that, my website revolves around therapy, mental health support, and the journey of self-care. I wanted to feature elements that reflect what I love and what sustains me.

Between 2018 and 2019, before the pandemic struck, my life took a tumultuous turn. My father received a diagnosis of dementia, and my demanding full-time job, coupled with the need to travel frequently from Yorkshire to Kent to assist my family, intensified the pressure. Trapped in a cycle of responsibility and unable to communicate my struggles, I kept everything bottled up for over a year. It wasn't until my wife insisted that I see a doctor that I began to address my mental health. Initially, I was prescribed anti-depressants, which helped me function but left me emotionally numb. Eventually, therapy became an integral part of my healing journey.

This isn't a proclamation about the merits or drawbacks of medication; it's a reminder that seeking professional guidance is crucial. Medication may help manage symptoms, but it wasn't sufficient to address the deeper issues of loneliness, identity crisis, and self-worth that I grappled with. Therapy became the conduit through which I reconnected with my loved ones, including my wife, family, friends, and my newfound companion, Jasper.

The combination of therapy and the routine care of Jasper, following my decision to transition from full-time employment to self-employment to become my father's primary caregiver, was instrumental in my recovery. This shift allowed me to provide consultancy services to the NHS during the pandemic while also charting a path toward becoming a therapist myself.

To me, Jasper embodies the essence of therapy and self-care in furry form. If you're navigating a challenging period, feeling isolated, or struggling with mental health issues like anxiety, depression, or grief, therapy can be immensely beneficial.

Feel free to stay engaged with my blog and social media channels where I'll share tips, resources, and information about local mental health services. Remember to take care of yourself, and may you find your own version of Jasper along your journey.

Prioritising Mental Health

As we navigate through the challenges of daily life, it's essential to prioritise our mental well-being. The journey to mental wellness is unique for each individual, and it's important to recognise the signs when we or someone we know may need support. In this blog post, I will explore the significance of mental health awareness and the resources available in West Yorkshire and the UK.

Embracing Mental Health Awareness

Mental health is a critical aspect of overall well-being, and yet, it is often overlooked. The stigma surrounding mental health issues can prevent individuals from seeking the help they need. However, by fostering an environment of open dialogue and understanding, we can encourage individuals to prioritise their mental wellness without fear of judgment.

Seeking Support: A Vital Step

Recognising when to seek support for mental health concerns is a crucial step towards healing. Whether it's managing stress, anxiety, depression, or any other mental health challenge, reaching out for assistance is a sign of strength. There are various resources available to provide support during mental health emergencies.

Choosing a therapist

When seeking therapy, it's essential to find a therapist who is well-suited to your needs and with whom you feel comfortable. In the UK, there are several considerations to keep in mind when choosing a therapist. Here are some tips to help you make an informed decision:

Therapist Credentials: Look for therapists who have undergone extensive training and are members of recognised organisations such as the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP), or the Counselling and Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body (CPCAB)

Regulation and Accreditation: Look for therapists who are registered with reputable regulatory bodies such as the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

Cultural and Religious Background: If your cultural or religious background is important to you, consider finding a therapist who is open to working with different religions and cultural backgrounds. It's essential to ensure that the therapist understands and respects your cultural context.

Personal Preference: Consider your personal preferences, such as the gender or non-binary identity of the therapist. Feeling comfortable with your chosen therapist is essential for a positive therapeutic experience.

Therapy Directories: Utilise trusted therapy directories like the BACP, The Counselling Directory or Psychology Today to find qualified therapists in your area. By considering these factors and conducting thorough research, you can select a therapist who meets your specific needs and provides the support you require.

Accessing Emergency Mental Health Support

In times of crisis, it's important to know where to turn for immediate mental health support. For individuals in West Yorkshire, the West Yorkshire Urgent Community Response Team offers rapid assistance for those experiencing a mental health crisis. Additionally, the NHS provides a comprehensive guide on accessing urgent mental health care in the UK. By sharing our experiences and supporting one another, we can contribute to a community that values mental well-being. It's essential to continue the conversation on mental health and ensure that individuals in West Yorkshire and across the UK are aware of the available resources for seeking support.

Prioritising mental health is an ongoing journey that requires attention and care. If you or someone you know is in need of immediate mental health support, please do not hesitate to reach out to the following resources:

Airedale Urgent Community Response. 

NHS Guide to Urgent Mental Health Care. 

Samaritans. Call 116 123 for free.

Childline. Call for free 0800 1111